Mental Health Tools for Kids

A young boy with a habit of screaming when he didn’t get his way is among the patients Joannie Yeh, MD, a primary care physician at Nemours Children’s Health in Media, Pennsylvania, has helped in her practice.

Yeh taught the boy to stretch out his hands into the shape of a starfish, then trace around the edges of his fingers while breathing slowly and deeply. His parents later reported that after using the strategy at home, their son was no longer taking his rage out on his younger siblings.

Interventions like breathing exercises are just a few techniques Yeh hopes more primary care clinicians will teach young patients as mental health issues among this population soar to a national state of emergency, major medical groups say. But many children go without treatment because of shortages of mental health clinicians and long wait-lists for appointments.

“Knowledge of different types of interventions allows pediatricians to offer more options to families — more than just medication alone,” Yeh said. “There are some strategies, like cognitive behavioral therapy, that a therapist is equipped to deliver, but we can help explain them or teach simple skills that borrow from principles of higher-level techniques and can help patients and families while they wait to see a therapist.”

The use of techniques that are based on mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy, and psychotherapy are especially helpful to pediatricians after a child’s answers on a screener indicate they may be struggling with anxiety, depression, or attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), said Theresa Nguyen, MD, chair of pediatrics at Greater Baltimore Medical Center, Baltimore.

“It kind of sucks if you come in worried and then your doctor says, ‘Okay, let me send you to a psychiatrist who you can’t see for 6 months; let me send you to a therapist who’s going to take a couple of weeks to get in with,’” Nguyen said.

Mental Health Strategies for Kids in Primary Care

While pediatricians cannot replace a mental health professional, they have the unique advantage of maintaining a long-term relationship with patients. Experts said clinicians should take an active role in supporting the mental health of patients through a variety of evidence-based strategies.

Changing Thought Patterns 

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) involves identifying and challenging automatic negative thoughts, which can affect a child’s emotional state and lead to behaviors like withdrawal or lashing out.

Yeh recommended asking a child about what is bothering them, pointing out unhelpful and negative thoughts, and then offering a different, positive one instead.

She also often draws a picture of the CBT chart, which is a visual representation of how feelings lead to thoughts, and then behaviors.

“I draw this diagram because it helps give the patients a visual understanding of how their feelings and emotions are connected,” Yeh said.

Tools to Tolerate Stressful Situations

Simple tools like breathing exercises, body scanning, and physical exercise can help children better tolerate distress.

Pediatricians can also recommend families use guided meditations, which have been shown to lower anxiety and increase positive social behavior, said Mollie Grow, MD, an associate professor of pediatrics at the University of Washington Medicine and Seattle Children’s Hospital, both in Seattle.

But a child might first need to get negative energy out before they can become calm.

“So I’m like, ‘Ok, let’s do actual physical exercise. Give me 10 jumping jacks.’ No one’s nervous after those jumping jacks,” Nguyen said. “When you’ve already been triggered, your nerves have gotten going, and you’re starting to spiral, you can’t slow yourself down enough to do a breathing exercise.”

Nguyen also said that cold water quickly calms the nervous system.

“I’ll run cold water in the office and have them put their hand in it until it’s almost frozen,” and the child or teen is able to think more clearly, Nguyen said. “It’s a real physiological response. It works.”

The Origin of a Feeling 

Explaining how symptoms of anxiety, depression, or ADHD work can help children and teens better understand that what they are experiencing is normal and better cope, Yeh said.

Clinicians might teach patients about how shallow breathing — a symptom of anxiety — is a result of the brain scanning for danger, and how slowing breathing tricks the brain into feeling safe again.

Barriers Abound

The use of these interventions in pediatric settings is not yet widespread, Grow said.

But starting in July 2025, the Accreditation Council for Graduate Medical Education will require pediatric residencies to include 4 weeks of mental health training. How that requirement is fulfilled will be up to residencies, said Brian Alverson, MD, pediatric program director and vice-chair of education at Nemours Children’s Hospital in Wilmington, Delaware.

Even with training, many pediatricians lack the time to address mental health issues during an office visit, said Carlos Lerner, MD, a professor of clinical pediatrics at University of California, Los Angeles Health. And despite low or sometimes no reimbursement for discussing these issues with patients, “the reality is we end up doing it anyway,” he said.

Treating issues like anxiety and depression “is a daily, constant part of the care that I provide for my patients,” said Lerner. “Whether the pandemic or social media exacerbated it, we are absolutely seeing a rise in mental health issues.”

Brittany Vargas is a medicine, mental health, and wellness journalist.